Hey everyone! If you’ve been reading my posts for a while now, you’ll know this title sounds extremely familiar. That’s because today’s topic for the Afrobloggers Challenge is “Recycle one of your old posts and bring it back to life”. I decided to recycle Dear Younger Self which you should definitely read here.
Dear Younger Self is without a doubt one of, if not my favourite blog posts. I go back to read it regularly because I’m constantly learning from myself and from others. You’d be surprised how much you can learn from a teenager trying to figure out life. In Dear Younger Self, I had input from various people who sent in little notes to their younger selves and I compiled them there. Today’s post is a letter to me from me, from me to you and whoever else.
Dear younger self,
I like to think about what advice I’d give you if I had the chance to meet you. You are constantly growing, going through new experiences and well, things around you change as often as time changes, which is always. So, here is what I’d tell you if I met you.
It doesn’t matter what others think. It doesn’t matter what your house looks like, it doesn’t matter what you have or what you don’t have. Impressing friends should be the least of your worries. There are certain changes you will have to go through, there are experiences you will have to go through but through all those, always remember to discover who you are first. Understand who you are and learn to love yourself before expecting others to love you.
What you do or say actually matters so don’t be afraid to speak and use your voice. Make sure you use your ambition wisely because you are exactly the girl you think you are. A strong, fearless and determined girl. Be unashamed, make friends and don’t be shy. Don’t be afraid to be unapologetically you because you are setting a solid foundation for yourself.
I would tell you acne is okay. Clear skin is not and should not be a beauty standard. Some people get to have smooth skin and others don’t. You may be uncomfortable with it for a while but don’t call yourself ugly because of pimples that you didn’t choose to have. When those kids ask you what happened to your face, don’t take it personally. They don’t know any better but they should. You are beautiful and you are precious even with the spots on your skin. You do not need validation from boys or men. You do not need them to tell you you are beautiful because you should know you are. You do mot need to compromise yourself for the validation of others.
Don’t be afraid to chase your dreams. It’s okay to be unsure of what to do sometimes. It’s okay to not be sure about where to go or what road to take. Not everything will go the way you want to. Sometimes you will fail and that’s okay. You will have some extremely disappointing and low moments but nothing you can’t move from. You can always get up, learn from your mistakes and keep moving. Never give up. Don’t limit your capabilities because you dear girl, are limitless. Your crazy ideas? Bring them to life.
Don’t compare yourself to others because you are unique and you are special. It may take a while for you to get rid of certain insecurities but always remember that you are the perfect version of you for this moment and for others to come.
I must say though, you are definitely onto something and you are definitely doing something right because you turn out great. A few hiccups here and there but if you could see me right now, you’d be impressed. You would definitely be proud of where you are. Believe me when I say you did not see any of this coming!
Dear younger me, me right now and me tomorrow, you are strong and you are powerful. You are beautiful and you are unique. You are indescribable and wild. “You are all the colours in one, at full brightness.”
Such a roller-coaster of emotions there. What would you tell your younger self? You just might need the advice right now. So let me know what you would say in the comments. Interesting fact: I have another similar post, Dear 30 Year Old Me, which you can read here. Clearly I enjoy talking to myself. I’ll be back tomorrow.
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Thanks for reading!