I’ve been a hopeless romantic since I knew what romance was. Of all the dreams I have had in my life, my quest for true love has been the one that has stuck with me. But over the past few years, the hopeless romantic has started to lose hope. So this Valentine’s day, this is my letter to THE ONE that I haven’t found yet.
I am going to send out a search party for you shortly, how have you not met me yet? You are going to hear a lot more complaints when we finally meet for keeping me waiting this long. For half my life I’ve looked for you in the faces of all the men I met, eagerly darting my eyes hoping to recognize you amongst them all. And to be honest, I am starting to give up.
Through my early twenties, I kept waiting to find you, to finally have that partner to see the world with. And then I realized that time was flying past me and I’d miss out on seeing the world as I waited for you and so I embarked on my first solo travel. It’s been 5 years and so many solo trips that I no longer crave for someone to be by my side as I wander the world.
I longed to set up a space with you but now that I have my own space, I like how it is MY space – a space not to be shared with anyone else, where I can escape from the world and find peace in my solace.
I wanted to find home in your arms but instead have found a home in myself, a home that no one can ever take away from me, a home with no heartbreaks.
I hoped you’d give me that validation that I sought for most of my adult life but instead found the courage to love and forgive myself, a validation far greater than any external validation.
I wanted to show you all the scars that I’ve hidden from the world but learnt how to heal my wounds to not leave scars.
I don’t talk a lot but always wanted to tell you all the stories I haven’t told anyone before but my memory is starting to fade and maybe some stories are just meant to be lost in the pages of time.
You see, darling, I don’t need you anymore not like I did before but I still want you. If you read this letter and are stuck somewhere, light your damn beacon and I’ll find you.
I started writing this letter and the words I’ve always wanted to say came pouring out. This is a very vulnerable and honest letter, that I wrote through constant tears. If you are out there looking for the one, don’t lost hope but also keep working on yourself. Just because we are alone doesn’t mean we need to be sad or lonely. Live a fabulous life without someone by your side. Happy Valentine’s Day!
Thank you so much, M for sending this AMAZING letter. People talk about finding someone who compliments you and not someone who completes you. This letter reminded me of that and I hope we all find that person. Read more about M’s dating mishaps on her blog which I am a very big fan of.
Are you content in your singlehood? Have you learnt to enjoy your time alone? What are some things you discovered about yourself while single? One more question. If you’re single, how long have you been single for? Leave a comment and let me know. We can talk about it in the comments.
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